One of the main things clients ask me to help them with is how to deal with negativity from others. We spend so much time and effort on maintaining a positive attitude and atmosphere; even going as far as limiting our conversations and visits with close relatives and friends who we may view as having mainly negative attitudes. However, what about when we simply must deal with negative people? How do we hold a conversation with these types of people without being rude?
I know sometimes you may simply want to walk away or just cut these people out of your life. Sometimes you may even feel the need to "shake" some sense into them. You may even wish you could snap your fingers and "poof" you've teleported to another location, leaving them scratching their heads, like "Where'd s/he go?" But the reality is, sometimes you're simply left with no choice but to be in their presence and simply listen.
If this sounds like a situation you've been in before, and you're mainly a happy, positive, blissful person, don't worry! You can still keep your positive attitude. Other people's thoughts and negativity don't have to affect your own vibes.
Here's a simple technique that can keep the negative energy and drama right with the source it is coming from. It takes a bit of imagination and visualization, but trust me, if you become good at this you'll no longer be ready to "shake" sense into people. So, the technique is this...just imagine there's a "Do Not Enter" sign on your forehead or right above your head and every time they say something you don't agree with (or is against your beliefs and/or values), their words are bouncing off of the "Do Not Enter" sign and right back onto them. Right now, you're just their sounding board. You can listen, even nod your head (they will think it's in agreement but in your mind your nod could be the motion that makes the words bounce off even harder).
Now if they ask for advice or words of encouragement, give it! But if they just want to vent and you don't want this to affect your vibes, do this technique and only allow words and views that are in agreement with your own vibrations to enter your atmosphere.
I've shared this technique with many clients and they've found it very helpful. They've even shared with me the variations they've come up with. One client said he likes to imagine a fence with barbed wire; another imagines tennis rackets are smacking the negative words away. Whatever works for you! And here's the thing, no one knows what you're imagining. That's the cool part!
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Danise Jarrett is a Master Certified Life and Success Coach, experienced in the Law of Attraction and success principles. When reading her posts, you'll be motivated towards creating and living the life you truly deserve!